Raising little Westies, and life as parent of a special needs son

Ten things my son wished you knew about him

That guy? There's much more going on you know.

1. Dad might talk about me as though my life is all about one character. It isn’t; I’m interested in LOTS of things, some of them a lot more strongly than you might think anyone can be interested in anything.

2. I can talk. Give me a chance, give me room, give me something worth saying. Stop anticipating everhting I might ned, and I might shock you by asking for something.

3. I didn’t run off without telling anyone on purpose. I knew what I wanted, and where I was going. It just didn’t strike me as important to let anyone know first.

4. I don’t have a “soon” or a “next”; I honestly only have “right now.” If you tell me what’s coming up, expect me to get ready for it… right NOW… and be upset if we don’t start doing it straight away.

My son

5. Which also means, if you don’t have something for me to do “right now” – I’m going to come up with something myself. Because I don’t just sit around “doing nothing.” You might need to plan for some time, for me to stop what I’m doing, and get ready to do what you want me to do.

6. I can do things. Things that might surprise you. I can climb, push, and solve problems that matter to me.

7. I don’t need medication. I need activity. LOTS of activity. Climbing, running, jumping, riding my bike, swimming, and jumping on a trampoline… I love all these things.

8. If I think we are supposed to be climbing, running, riding my bike, swimming, or jumping on a trampoline – and we aren’t – I will get upset. It’s mainly because I can’t talk to you about what I want to do, when I get overwhelmed by not doing it right now.

9. I am so clever! I am learning to read, do maths…. and talk… all at the same time! It is hard to learn to read words when you have never said that word before.

10. I don’t care what you have heard about autism, I do love my brother, sister, mother and father. And when it’s what I want, I love to be cuddled, and share my affection.



Written in October 2011.


5 responses to “Ten things my son wished you knew about him

  1. Fi (Wonderfully Wired Mum) October 25, 2011 at 4:36 am

    That is beautiful!
    And so so true….He is SO clever 🙂
    I giggled at number 7 …it’s (ahem) very familiar!

  2. Westie October 25, 2011 at 4:59 am

    We’ve got Sue Larkey backing us up on that one 😉

  3. Soma Mukherjee June 27, 2012 at 12:11 pm

    Big big big hugs to your son( which he may not like so virtual hugs are safe)he is super cute..
    I have a 13 year old daughter ( autistic) oh what a gem our kids are …
    yes to activities loads of them and lots of fun and dancing and singing and whatever they want and no to medicines….

    • Westie June 27, 2012 at 12:46 pm

      Thanks very much for your cyberhugs there Soma. We are blessed that so far we have not seen any need for our seven year old boy to need any form of medication, but I know that where it is the right solution it is often the only solution.

  4. Suse September 9, 2012 at 5:31 pm

    That is a great article Westie – I think we all need to write lists like this to share with the people in our kid’s lives.
    The special ed teacher asked for a 1 page document about our son she could give to all his teachers when he started highschool – I thought this was a great idea.

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